DO NOT make fun of their “little” crush. Teach them first that they need to treat her respectively and if she does not feel the same way that it is okay. They will “like” someone else again.
If they ask you to help them pick an outfit or do their hair, then happily help them. Help them feel proud of how they look so they are building confidence in their self esteem.
Teach your son to be a respectful gentlemen. Its okay to teach our boys to have manners and treat every girl how they would want their Momma treated.
random dancing in the kitchen
lot of hugs and kisses ( showing affection becomes natural for them)
opening doors and letting ladies go first.
tell them they are handsome.
let them cry( if it is a good reason to cry);)
This may only be an innocent crush that can last less than a week but it sets the precedence for how they view relationships in the future. We as Mothers,it is our job to help show them the way to navigate life. So even though I make silly videos about it , I take it seriously when it comes to teaching my boys how to be a gentleman and accept rejection.
As all of you busy Moms of multiple kids know it is hard to take time to just sit down and relax with your kids. I myself am constantly moving until it is time to to go to bed. My brain does not shut off all day.
Every Friday, I work two jobs. I work as a special education Instructional assistant during the week and on Friday’s I work at a restaurant/bar till 2am. Friday’s are long and Saturday’s I wake up at 8am with the baby. Needless to say even though I am exhausted I still get up and try to enjoy the day with my kids.
When you don’t take time to just sit down and relax you mentally get burned out. Having ADHD it’s hard to NOT do anything. Even when I am watching TV At night I am folding laundry or feeding the baby or on my laptop. Yesterday was the first day in a long time I cleaned very minimal. I had all 3 kiddos. We went to a farmers market , made homemade pizza and watched stranger things together.
my son had a blast and picked out his own cactus.
Last night I sat and watched the boys read a silly book to their sister and my heart just felt so happy. I rarely sit down and just BE in the moment with them. Do it more Mommas!!
So everyday is challenge. I know even if we have a significant other or spouse that the house chores seem overwhelming. How I cope is first, I appreciate that I have a family to dirty up our house but many days I get overwhelmed with cleaning.
First- learn to Delegate. Ask everyone old enough to do certain chores. No matter how small the chore, it still helps and teaches our littles how to do everyday tasks.
Second- make a chart for each day of the week and assign chores to each person. We made a chore chart that is the same for each day of the week. I labeled each chore with a child’s name. I also made a list for weekend mornings that the boys know HAS to be done BEFORE any electronics can be touched. It still takes reminding but the lists definitely help our ADHD brains.
Living with ADHD as a parent has been a challenge. Researching ways to make our life alittle easier and more organized has been my goal. I am constantly looking on Pinterest, google and books. One thing I have found that seems to help is to give my sons and I lists to follow each day. I have a morning list, afternoon list and bedtime list. Each list has every step they need to accomplish before anything else. Some days it’s done without issues…..other days are alittle harder.