DO NOT make fun of their “little” crush. Teach them first that they need to treat her respectively and if she does not feel the same way that it is okay. They will “like” someone else again.
If they ask you to help them pick an outfit or do their hair, then happily help them. Help them feel proud of how they look so they are building confidence in their self esteem.
Teach your son to be a respectful gentlemen. Its okay to teach our boys to have manners and treat every girl how they would want their Momma treated.
random dancing in the kitchen
lot of hugs and kisses ( showing affection becomes natural for them)
opening doors and letting ladies go first.
tell them they are handsome.
let them cry( if it is a good reason to cry);)
This may only be an innocent crush that can last less than a week but it sets the precedence for how they view relationships in the future. We as Mothers,it is our job to help show them the way to navigate life. So even though I make silly videos about it , I take it seriously when it comes to teaching my boys how to be a gentleman and accept rejection.
One day my father told me about the law of attraction. I didn’t believe him at first. He told me that he truly believed in the law of attraction and I needed to look it up. I looked into the Law of attraction and what it mean’t. I thought to myself “is this real?”…..well I can say for myself IT IS!
It takes time and really being aware of how you think everyday and changing the way you think. Here is how I do it with ADHD.
Each Morning I realized my thoughts were racing and they were not always positive. I started my day off everyday with racing thoughts and anxiety. So I started listening to positive affirmations. After the shower when the house was super quiet and my thoughts and anxieties took over I put my headphones on and just listened to positive affirmations while getting ready. It quieted my own thoughts and anxieties.
Second, the more I talked about having a great day or telling my kids to say they are going to have a great day, it started to become easy to think positively. Once we as parents think and speak positively it will automatically overflow into our children’s thoughts.
Anytime I started to think negatively or that I was in a state of want or lack I quickly changed my thoughts. I know this may all sound silly but I promise it does work!
Third, create a dream board. Put the things you want to manifest on a board in a place you’ll see it everyday. Pin up positive affirmations, pictures of the things you want to manifest. Say to yourself each day that these things already exist for you , they will come into your life when you are ready.
One example that I truly believe this works is when I worked at a restaurant on a holiday and I walked into work that day and just said” I WILL make money tonight. Money flows to me effortlessly” I said that to myself throughout the night and low and behold I found 2 twenty dollar bills on the ground randomly throughout the night. I know that may not sound like a lot but at the end of the night I made 2 times what I normally do in one night. There are so many other instances of being able to manifest things I want and everyday I am still learning to change my thoughts into positive ones but like everyone else it’s a Challenge.
LIST, LISTS, LISTS AND LISTS! I have lists everywhere. My boys both have ADHD and they constant reminding of what needs to be done. So I created a Morning List, after school lost AND. a weekend morning list. These Lists breakdown the routines that need to be done at that point in the day. I broke them down by each task. I posted a picture below as an example. 🙂
I laminated them also to help the boys to remember to check each item off.
2. CHORE CHARTS!
Remember , you are only one person and the need to delegate even the smallest chore is vital to your sanity. It also helps our little ones be responsible and learn to take care of things themselves. When a chore doesn’t get done then you know who is to be held accountable. IF your anything like me, your brain tries to keep your body moving at all times so having a chore chart will help you have more time to spend with your family. I posted a picture of our chore chart. Every house is different so give chores that are for your family.
*side note I added the baby on the chart ,hence why one row is nothing but snuggles.
Routines can be so helpful for the ADHDer brains.I need structure and so does my children.If we do not have a plan set out for the day I feel lost.I need to know what needs to get done each day. The daily checklists will you and your child get into a daily routine that hopefully the lists won’t be needed and the routine is just remembered……We are NOT there yet but each day gets better.
One thing I did learn was that Vitamin C may make ADHD medication flush out of your system faster so any daily vitamins I give , I give them at night.I give the boys a daily Magnesium and a daily multi vitamin.I found these gummy Magnesium vitamins they love. Now remember to always ask your doctor before you or your child takes any new vitamins, these are just my families favorites.
5. EXERCISE, EXERCISE AND MORE EXERCISE
This is one of my favorites and I DO NOT do it enough. Exercising is known to help ADHD Brains tremendously. Any type of exercise is wonderful for the mind and body. SO get up and dance, play golf or do some crossfit!
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As all of you busy Moms of multiple kids know it is hard to take time to just sit down and relax with your kids. I myself am constantly moving until it is time to to go to bed. My brain does not shut off all day.
Every Friday, I work two jobs. I work as a special education Instructional assistant during the week and on Friday’s I work at a restaurant/bar till 2am. Friday’s are long and Saturday’s I wake up at 8am with the baby. Needless to say even though I am exhausted I still get up and try to enjoy the day with my kids.
When you don’t take time to just sit down and relax you mentally get burned out. Having ADHD it’s hard to NOT do anything. Even when I am watching TV At night I am folding laundry or feeding the baby or on my laptop. Yesterday was the first day in a long time I cleaned very minimal. I had all 3 kiddos. We went to a farmers market , made homemade pizza and watched stranger things together.
my son had a blast and picked out his own cactus.
Last night I sat and watched the boys read a silly book to their sister and my heart just felt so happy. I rarely sit down and just BE in the moment with them. Do it more Mommas!!
So everyday is challenge. I know even if we have a significant other or spouse that the house chores seem overwhelming. How I cope is first, I appreciate that I have a family to dirty up our house but many days I get overwhelmed with cleaning.
First- learn to Delegate. Ask everyone old enough to do certain chores. No matter how small the chore, it still helps and teaches our littles how to do everyday tasks.
Second- make a chart for each day of the week and assign chores to each person. We made a chore chart that is the same for each day of the week. I labeled each chore with a child’s name. I also made a list for weekend mornings that the boys know HAS to be done BEFORE any electronics can be touched. It still takes reminding but the lists definitely help our ADHD brains.
Living with ADHD as a parent has been a challenge. Researching ways to make our life alittle easier and more organized has been my goal. I am constantly looking on Pinterest, google and books. One thing I have found that seems to help is to give my sons and I lists to follow each day. I have a morning list, afternoon list and bedtime list. Each list has every step they need to accomplish before anything else. Some days it’s done without issues…..other days are alittle harder.